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geekchickToday is Prickle-Prickle, day 68 in the season of Confusion, 3270.
Today's random discussion topic, chosen to take my mind off the fact that it is indeed a Monday and inspired by a conversation with a sweetie last night:
How do you (yes, the specific you) define "flirting with intent"? What elements need to be there for a flirtation to fall under the "with intent" banner? Does flirtation necessarily imply said intent for you, or do you enjoy it for its own sake? What sorts of things figure into your decision to flirt with someone?
[Before anyone thinks they're clever and decides to read anything into this particular question posed at this time, let me state for the record that this is completely intended as a theoretical discussion. =) I'll post my own answers a bit later.]
Today's random discussion topic, chosen to take my mind off the fact that it is indeed a Monday and inspired by a conversation with a sweetie last night:
How do you (yes, the specific you) define "flirting with intent"? What elements need to be there for a flirtation to fall under the "with intent" banner? Does flirtation necessarily imply said intent for you, or do you enjoy it for its own sake? What sorts of things figure into your decision to flirt with someone?
[Before anyone thinks they're clever and decides to read anything into this particular question posed at this time, let me state for the record that this is completely intended as a theoretical discussion. =) I'll post my own answers a bit later.]
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Date: 2004-08-02 08:30 pm (UTC)I don't tend to start flirting with someone with intent these days. For me, intent implies that I actively want to develop a physical and/or romantic relationship with someone. I tend more often to flirt for the sake of flirting, because it can be a fun way to get to know someone better. This is not to say that just because I don't usually start out with intent, I don't ever develop it; far from it, although it's not guaranteed. The thing that's hard for me to catch sometimes is when I've crossed over into "intent" territory from "this is fun". I think that the more sustained the flirtation is, the more likely I am to start thinking about whether I've developed intent. (I'm very bad at discerning it on the part of other people; heck, I'm bad at figuring out when someone's flirting with me unless they beat me with the clue bat.)
I flirt with people that attract me in some way, usually because I think they're likely to be a good conversationalist (most of my flirting these days is done online). I also find it a lot easier to flirt with men than women, probably just lack of experience reading women in this context. If I flirt with someone, there's something about them that I find appealing, although it may or may not lead to anything more.