note to self

[geekchick]

Things I'd like to noodle on:
* how much fun life is when one has a crush or three
* how it's even better when one's sweetie encourages said crushes
* how sometimes people surprise cynical ol' me in good ways
* why I'm totally fine dealing with pre-existing relationships, but new ones cause frequent twinges of insecurity
* what my ideal situation five years from now would be
* the answers to patgreene's "Who are you?" question. (Right now I have a burning desire to watch "The Breakfast Club" again, especially since C. hasn't ever seen it.)

All of this will have to wait though, as I'm going to go crash so that I can get up early and get to the store to get ingredients for pumpkin chocolate chip cookies for the various festivities tomorrow. If that fails, I'll go pick up a dozen Godiva pumpkin spice truffles instead, but it will have to be at the last minute to avoid my showing up with 9 truffles and looking a bit queasy. (Note: the way to my heart is not entirely through Godiva pumpkin truffles, but they certainly help light the path. ;) )

Comments

[datagoddess.livejournal.com]

how much fun life is when one has a crush or three

I like having crushes, I just suck at doing anything about them. :)

how it's even better when one's sweetie encourages said crushes

Oh, yes. That's a warm-fluffy-bunny feeling, alright :)

why I'm totally fine dealing with pre-existing relationships, but new ones cause frequent twinges of insecurity

I'm having that right now with someone indyansel's just flirting with. Probably just because it's the first time he's done it. It's nice, though, that I know her, and I trust her.

pumpkin chocolate chip cookies

Recipe!! Recipe!!

third time's the charm?

[geekchick]

Grrrr. Reposting since the stupid web interface keeps chopping off the last character of my posts. And then I posted the wrong link. That'll teach me to be up at the crack of dawn. :)

I like having crushes, I just suck at doing anything about them. :)

Me too. =) Sometimes though I don't really want to do anything about them, I just want to sit around and grin like an idiot for no apparent reason. ;) I find it particularly hard to do anything about it if I'm crushed out on a woman, as I have pretty much self-assessed that I have zero talent at flirting with women for some reason; I'm utterly lacking in clue about how to read responses and the like. Anybody want to volunteer to be my flirting buddy so I can get some practice? ;)

Recipe!! Recipe!!

I use a recipe that spookycam posted a while ago; it's here:
http://www.livejournal.com/~spookycam/day/2001/09/19

Re: third time's the charm?

[datagoddess.livejournal.com]

Anybody want to volunteer to be my flirting buddy so I can get some practice? ;)

*raises hand*, but I think that really requires geographical closeness, which we're a few states apart :)

I think, for me, it's that I've been flirting with guys since grade school, and I learned how to read the responses. Flirting with women is much newer to me, and I'm good at it jokingly, but not very good at it when I'm being serious.

I got the recipe, thanks! Now I just need the ingredients....

Re: third time's the charm?

[geekchick]

*raises hand*, but I think that really requires geographical closeness, which we're a few states apart :)

*deep sigh* So true, at least to practice reading feedback in person. Ah well. We could, I suppose, practice the fine art of flirting in journal comments or something. ;)

I think, for me, it's that I've been flirting with guys since grade school, and I learned how to read the responses. Flirting with women is much newer to me, and I'm good at it jokingly, but not very good at it when I'm being serious.

And again with the "Hey! Me too!".

Re: third time's the charm?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know.... I'm a woman and you can flirt with me *anytime*

Re: third time's the charm?

[geekchick]

*bats eyelashes fetchingly* How can I, if I don't know who I'm supposed to be flirting with? *grin*

Re: third time's the charm?

[(Anonymous)]

Heehee. *grin* You actually do know me somewhat, but I think I'll just let you wonder.... *evil grin*

Re: third time's the charm?

[datagoddess.livejournal.com]

There's a certain 'bat who doesn't have an LJ who likes to post anonymously, but usually signs the posts. Hmmmm, I wonder if it's her. If it is, I think she is closer to you than I am....

Re: third time's the charm?

[geekchick]

No, I don't think this person is too close geographically. =)

pre-existing v. new r'ships

[aroraborealis.livejournal.com]

I totally do the "pre-existing r'ship - fine, new one - eek!" thing. I think it has to do with expectation and fear. With Shayde, I know how everything fits right now, but when he starts to make noises about adding someone, it worries me because I feel pretty sure that it'll mean less time/attention for me. Along the same lines, I deal much better with someone new coming into the picture if I know about hir all along, and get to know hir well enough to trust hir intentions.

Re: pre-existing v. new r'ships

[geekchick]

With Shayde, I know how everything fits right now, but when he starts to make noises about adding someone, it worries me because I feel pretty sure that it'll mean less time/attention for me. Along the same lines, I deal much better with someone new coming into the picture if I know about hir all along, and get to know hir well enough to trust hir intentions.

Part of my problem I think is that most of my relationships are LDRs, and I think a large part of what I'm feeling is actually along the lines of "how come *she* gets to cuddle with you and I don't? I wanna play toooooo! *whine*" And that element of surprise that gets added when a new partner shows up seemingly out of the blue (not that we know anyone who does this *cough* ;) ) is a big thing for me too. I'm glad to see that I'm not a space alien about these kinds of things

Re: pre-existing v. new r'ships

[datagoddess.livejournal.com]

a new partner shows up seemingly out of the blue

That would push my buttons. One thing that indyansel and I have as a firm rule is that the other one know what relationships are going on, preferrably from the beginning. And we've been able to live up to that, pretty well. But we're newly poly, so I think a lot of our discomfot issues are pretty much just the newness of it all.

Re: pre-existing v. new r'ships

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

Part of my problem I think is that most of my relationships are LDRs, and I think a large part of what I'm feeling is actually along the lines of "how come *she* gets to cuddle with you and I don't? I wanna play toooooo! *whine*"

Meanwhile, the existing partner may be saying, "How come you're spending so much time on-line with *her*? Come cuddle me, damn it!" : > There is nothing perfect in this world.

And that element of surprise that gets added when a new partner shows up seemingly out of the blue (not that we know anyone who does this *cough* ;) ) is a big thing for me too.

Yep. I hate that too, big time. Now if I could just get someone to remember that I hate it.

Recipe?

[(Anonymous)]

That recipe sounds great -- will you post it?