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geekchickToday is Prickle-Prickle, day 8 in the season of Confusion, 3268.
On Congested Roads, Love Runs Out of Gas
On Congested Roads, Love Runs Out of Gas
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The term "geographically undesirable" was once reserved for people with romantic potential but for the fact that they lived in, say, Chicago. Now, it can mean someone on the other side of the Woodrow Wilson Bridge
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Date: 2002-06-03 09:05 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-06-03 09:59 am (UTC)--hammercock, trying to find interesting, datable people local to me...oh yeah, and who AREN'T old enough to be my father or trying to have sekr1t affairs. good god.
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Date: 2002-06-03 09:25 am (UTC)Granted, the two women I'm dating...one lives in Takoma Park and the other waaaaay out at the other end of 66...spontaneity is hard that way. I'd like to just be able to say "Hey, come over and hang out" or whatever, but that's just not going to happen.
Like I said, I'm more concerned with meeting interesting, dateable guys (appparently they're all in Boston) than with how far away they live right now.
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Date: 2002-06-03 09:40 am (UTC)Yeah, spontaneity kind of suffers a bit (I think one of the guys in the article makes mention of that too; hard to say "come over and hang out" when it involves packing a bag and driving for an hour). I'd be happy though to even be able to say "okay, we have a standing date every Thursday" and have it not involve a 10-hour drive or expensive transportation options.
interesting, dateable guys (appparently they're all in Boston)
I still don't get what it is with Boston. Don't like the city particularly, but like a bunch of folks who live there.
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Date: 2002-06-03 10:31 am (UTC)S. and I try to make a point of getting together about once a week...it's not impossible to do Alexandria to Takoma Park in a reasonable time, so long as 295 isn't a mess. It's not a "standing date" as in the same day every week, but it's once a week, day chosen according to what real life happens to dictate for that week.
I still maintain that there's a lack of interesting dateable guys...maybe I should go north instead of staying down here.
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Date: 2002-06-03 10:55 am (UTC)That's cause us desirable guys are already
married. :)
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Date: 2002-06-03 11:04 am (UTC)what's a nice girl like me supposed to do in that case?
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what's a nice girl like me supposed to do in that case?
Talk to my wife?
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Date: 2002-06-03 03:41 pm (UTC)But two married women in my life is enough already.
Maybe I'll see her at the Shakspeare Free for All, if S. and J. and I don't decide to go together. Have you all picked a date yet?
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Date: 2002-06-03 03:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-06-03 03:35 pm (UTC)that you would know enough to ask my wife. :)
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Date: 2002-06-03 03:36 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-06-03 03:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2002-06-03 03:51 pm (UTC)no subject
I met Shayde when Spam and I dropped Nathan off to help them move. Points I met via #homeport (I think; he should correct me if I'm wrong). I haven't been on IRC/EFnet other than #homeport in years and years, although I have this feeling that we probably know some more local folks in common.
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Date: 2002-06-03 04:13 pm (UTC)I met Spam at an Arisia party a couple of years ago. I have no idea where I know Nathan from...one of those people who's crossed into my life in more ways than I can count.
I know Points from usenet (soc.bi) or EFnet #bisex/#bi and #bdsm. I actually still hang out on EFnet and also on openprojects.net.
So how come we haven't met yet, to the best of my knowledge?
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Date: 2002-06-03 07:27 pm (UTC)I'm not sure if we have or not. If we haven't, it's probably due to the fact that 1) I'm a sloth these days when it comes to going out and 2) I haven't really been hanging out with the local kinky crowd/#bdsm contingent in a few years (and wasn't using this nick at the time)
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Date: 2002-06-03 09:26 pm (UTC)And I pretty much avoid most of the local kink stuff...
I don't think we have; unless I met you at something not around here.
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Date: 2002-06-03 09:35 pm (UTC)no subject
*grin* Well, that's reassuring.
What was that about small worlds again?
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Date: 2002-06-03 10:05 pm (UTC)Whoda thunk that a link to a Post article on dating would have spawned an all day discussion?
Okay...it's way past my bedtime, especially when I have to get up early to go to the wilds of West Virginia for two days. I'll talk to you more when I get back I guess.
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Date: 2002-06-03 11:52 am (UTC)Hey! I know some interesting, dateable guys in the Baltimore-DC area. Maybe I should start up a dating service.
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Date: 2002-06-03 12:37 pm (UTC)Nice Jewish poly boy....preferrably bisexual, and not totally squicked by kinky stuff, even if he's not into it himself. Late 20's-early 30's...
That's a start, anyway.
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Date: 2002-06-03 01:08 pm (UTC)That's a start, anyway.
I may have a little trouble with the "Jewish" part. Is that hard-and-fast? *grin* Hey, I saw from looking at your journal that you do HIV work. We should get together sometime - I'm in that line of work myself. You're in the DC area?
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Date: 2002-06-03 01:18 pm (UTC)Yep...I do HIV work. Even on days I don't know why I do it. I'm in Alexandria actually, and I work in Arlington. I'm seriously contemplating PhD work in Public Health/Health Education/Health Communication so long as I can get someone else to pay for it, while I TA or do research for them or something.
I think a few people said they were going to point you to my random research-ish question a few weeks ago...maybe
So, tell me what it is you do?
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Date: 2002-06-03 01:57 pm (UTC)Alas. I'll see what I can do. :-)
Yep...I do HIV work. Even on days I don't know why I do it. I'm in Alexandria actually, and I work in Arlington. I'm seriously contemplating PhD work in Public Health/Health Education/Health Communication so long as I can get someone else to pay for it, while I TA or do research for them or something.
I think a few people said they were going to point you to my random research-ish question a few weeks ago...maybe baratron and/or mactavish I think.
So, tell me what it is you do?
I am ABD (all but dissertation) in clinical health psychology, and working full time in the field while I try to finish my diss in the rare odd hour of free time. Right now I work two days a week as a therapist in an HIV clinic in Prince George's County, as an adherence and secondary transmission specialist but also doing general psych care. The other three days a week, I'm a researcher at the Institute of Human Virology in Baltimore, working on a variety of HIV studies with a focus on health promotion or psychological aspects of health.
People did point me to your research question. I don't have any citations at hand, which is why I didn't post a response, but my personal experience working with nonadherent patients leads me to believe that closeted people are generally less adherent - in part because of privacy concerns (e.g., not wanting others to see them taking meds or see them with pill bottles) and in part because they don't want to have a reminder of their serostatus (which is also a reminder of the aspects of their sex lives they're uncomfortable with).
My personal belief is that it's better to wait to start meds until you're sure you're psychologically and practically ready to start them - even if you have CD4+ count < 350, which is supposed to be the "official" start point. I think it's better to wait until you're truly going to be able to commit to your regimen and make it work - with anything less than full commitment, you're likely to just wind up developing resistance and losing the opportunity to benefit from some of the best and easiest meds. If the CD4+ count is really really low and the person has to start meds ready or not, they should do it with a strong support system in place from the clinic.
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Date: 2002-06-03 04:20 pm (UTC)I'm hoping that I'll be able to study it eventually.
It sounds like your experience is similar to my hypothesis.
I'd agree though, that it doesn't make sense to start meds until one is ready to be compliant-physically and psychologically...but I also know there are doctors pushing meds when CD4+ counts are well about 350, and people are in otherwise good health...which doesn't make sense to me; it seems like it gives more opportunity to develop resistance sooner.
We should chat sometime though...
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Date: 2002-06-03 07:30 pm (UTC)I do find it kind of well.. shallow... to discard a person with whom you have a real affinity just because of distance. But with all these little nitpicky rules that people have it's a wonder any people develop affinities for any others, IMHO.