Something that's come up in therapy that I really need to remember

What I need to do:


What I feel like I'm doing when I do that:

Taking care of myself is at least as important as taking care of other people. I am not a completely selfish asshat if I decide from time to time that I need to take care of myself first, no matter how much my brain or other people may tell me that I am. Draining my own reserves to take care of other people is, in fact, just likely to end up badly. I get worn down and resentful, and that's not good for anybody.