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[geekchick]

truebrideconfessions seems to attract some of the whiniest, most spoiled, "IT'S MY DAY AND I'M A F'ING PRINCESS" bitches. Some current selections (cut and pasted, all mangled spelling courtesy the original posters):

The closer and closer I get to the wedding, the more and more angry I get with my parents. My fiance is paying for almost the whole thing. We are very disappointed with the lack of support from my parents. They had over four years to save for our wedding. They didn't make any sacrifices for me like so many parents do to give their daughters a wedding. The could afford to give us $8,000-$10,000 if they didn't live such a frivolous life style.

I think the resent me for leaving them. They better never expect me to take care of them when they can't work anymore. They can go live with my loser, alcoholic brother that they keep giving money, etc.

If you can't afford to provide you child an education and a semi-decent wedding, then don't have children. Its cruel to blow all your money and then watch your kid work at McDonald's because you don't feel responsible for helping them succeed.
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My friendship with cheap gift-givers has soured.
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I secretly judge women whose rings come from mall jewelers.
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I made my mom give me her ring because my cheep boyfriend bought me the uglyest ring ever. Also, my engagement was so awful, so I made my parents plan a new engagement with my boyfriend at a romantic resturant for me as a surprise....My boyfreind doesn't know I know, but I do...hehehe....I GET WHAT I WANT!!!!!
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I was so disappointed when I saw the ring when my fiancee proposed.

I know it's so shallow and selfish, but I wanted a ring that would compare to my friends and co-workers. I was embarassed to show mine to anyone, because it's a little small in comparison.

I never said a word to him, and acted thrilled, but I was so let down.

As a woman, I know how other women think. A big ring means he really loves you a lot, and is willing to go into debt in girl language.

*blink* Let's see that last sentence again: "As a woman, I know how other women think. A big ring means he really loves you a lot, and is willing to go into debt in girl language. " Clearly, I missed the memo where the appeal of this whole "gimme a giant rock and start us out in a multi-thousand dollar financial hole" thing was explained to us girls.

Comments

omg

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

How... incredibly shallow.

I'm about to gore out my eyes with a plastic spork. This... is... just... wrong.

I'd much, much rather have a relationship of mutuality and reciprocity, where we help each other out and there's lots of give and take between us -- than this focus on the tokens of engagement like a big ring and the money invested in the upcoming wedding.

I want to jump up and down and scream at them all: "THE WEDDING IS NOT THE MARRIAGE! THE WEDDING IS NOT THE MARRIAGE!"

I fear, though, that is likely to fall on deaf ears and be responded to with some comment that a Vera Wang original means mummy and daddy love you, but a JcPenney bridal dress means they don't...

Re: omg

[kyra.livejournal.com]

Dude, if I ever do get married and my parents manage to be in the same wedding ceremony and reception together without pouty faces or tight lips, I'll consider that proof enough that mummy and daddy love me.

Not that I require proof, but.

[quasigeostrophy.livejournal.com]

Ho. Lee. Crap.

[geekchick]

My "favorite" is the "my parents could afford to give me ten grand if they'd just quit spending their money on themselves" girl.

[also-huey.livejournal.com]

Thankfully, my ruthless screening process has weeded out any of these types from even making this an issue for me. My first marriage, my parents were all "But what about the flowers? You have to have flowers!!!(eleventy-hundred-exclamation-point)!11!1", at which point I say "Uh, ma? We can't afford any goddamn flowers, so if you insist that we 'have to have flowers', you can own up some cash, and maybe then there'll be flowers". And, sure enough, Mom sent a check.

Second wedding, we ran away to Reno and got married by a funny-scary 60-year-old female Elvis impersonator.

Third wedding? ...eh, might actually do this one right this time. Remains to be seen. Ask me in a couple years, when that actually starts getting planned, assuming that's still the idea then - which ain't a foregone conclusion. Hard to say.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

sheesh.

If you are expecting your parents to pay for your wedding, you're not old enough to get married.

If you think that getting into debt is a sign of love, your marriage is doomed. Because it is either going to die from too little love or too much debt. Really.

[tshuma]

I hear things about "the ring" all the time, especially since we became engaged a few months ago. It makes me ill. Now, my guy didn't have to give me an engagement present, nor I him, but he did, and I did, and they were meaningful and appropriate, and [mostly] useful gifts. He bought me a gently used Miata (I'd smushed our last one), and I bought him a Wii.

I do get amused when people want to hear all the details about "the Ring" and I tell them it's parked out there somewhere, or that it's an emerald (because it's Emerald Green) or too big to wear. I think this whole fixation on rings and crap is a bizarre level of competitiveness I've never understood. I have major issues with the diamond industry, too. So he knew that he could buy a ring, but that whatever it was, it couldn't be a diamond. This was just better all around.

[tisiphone.livejournal.com]

As a woman, I know how other women think. A big ring means he really loves you a lot, and is willing to go into debt in girl language.

Wow... wait, what? I think I missed that class. Cuz I told N that if he ever bothered to buy me a ring, I didn't even want diamonds because of their production methods and if he went into debt for it I'd be really pissed off. (Course, he basically wouldn't have to if he were buying me anything smaller than several carats, but I still don't want it.)

[tazira.livejournal.com]

Wow. That's beautiful.

I love it every bit as much as I love Entitlement Mothers. You know, the women who feel like we should all pitch in and treat them like princesses because they chose to spawn. The ones with 'Baby on Board' signs dangling from the rear view windows of their cars.

"Oh, I was planning on driving like an asshole and crashing into you madly, but now that I know you have a baby on board, I won't do that."

What the fuck?!

[quasigeostrophy.livejournal.com]

:-) I'm partial to the "I GET WHAT I WANT!!!!!" one and the last one. Sheesh.

[firinel.livejournal.com]

if someone bought me a diamond, I'd pretty much know we weren't meant to be together.

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Um. Why are you reading this crap?

No diamonds here. Ew.

[qe2.livejournal.com]

O.o

>.<

O.O!

Having just been MOH at my SG's wedding, I can categorically state that not all brides operate this way.

And thank fucking God for that.

[geekchick]

Oh no, and not even all the brides who post over at that site are such Bridezillas; there's lots of "my ring is small and I had a wedding with seven guests and it's all perfect because that other stuff is so not the point of getting married". There is a disturbingly large percentage of entitlement bitches though.

[qe2.livejournal.com]

Hah. Word.

[qe2.livejournal.com]

Weddings do not tend to bring out the best in people, the SG and the BIL aside. (They bought one another rings of tungsten, which is apparently the Hot New Metal. Pretty cool, actually.)

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

"I made my mom give me her ring because my cheep boyfriend bought me the uglyest ring ever."

I made my mom give me her ring?

Jesum crow, woman, it's obviously too late for your parents to slap the stupid out of you, but I hope for your fiance's sake he figures out what kind of person you are and breaks the engagement before you break him!

Eurgh.

Also: I do not like diamonds, at all, so any (wo)man who bought me one would be politely turned down in (her)his proposal because that's the kind of thing I would be careful to let them know.

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

After reading The Abyss (and seeing the movie), I decided I wanted a wedding band of titanium. :)

[qe2.livejournal.com]

*nods* Exactly so. The SG does not wear gold, and the BIL - to his credit - figured that out rather early. In addition to the tungsten wedding band, therefore, she also sports two other rings from him made of, I think, brushed steel.

I might yet learn to like him.

Keep them away from me!

[oakdragon.livejournal.com]

You mean that "girl language" wasn't taught back in fifth grade when they ushered all the girls into the auditorium, leaving the boys to wonder what was going on?

Let me just say those aren't the kind of women I'd want to spend my life with.

Unfortunately, my sister did seem to border on such sentiments. She's definitely no happier for it.

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that. What you said.

[sistercoyote.livejournal.com]

Someone once posited that the "Baby on Board" signs are actually to warn other drivers that the contents of that car are under pressure and liable to do Very Odd Things.

[anotheranon.livejournal.com]

I don't get it either - if this is "girl language" it's very 5th grade indeed :(

[asetwoman.livejournal.com]

Word. To all of the above.

What the nickel-plated FUCK?

[greendalek.livejournal.com]

That's about as shrewish as it gets. And just think, there's a whole multimillion dollar industry exclusively devoted to encouraging this kind of nitwittery.

Never mind the zombies!

[malefica-v.livejournal.com]

It's a BRIDE! On a rampage! RUN!

[plaidsheep.livejournal.com]

MUST. WASH. BRAIN. NOW

yet another collection of females who deserve a few whacks with the cosmic clue-by-four.

HEY YOU BEOTCHES!!! Go saunter down to St. James Parish in Louisiana and talk to some of the folks who are living in trailers you ungrateful, spoiled excuses for human beings.

DAMN... women really are their own worst enemies sometimes.

[geekchick]

Most of the posts on the site aren't nearly this egregious, a lot of them do involve the "size of the ring and size of the guest list are so not what getting married's about".

No diamonds here. Ew.

My ring has diamonds. A tiny, tiny fraction of a carat, but (conflict-free) diamonds.

[geekchick]

I don't wear yellow gold other than my grandmother's engagement ring (and that only on occasion), and Chris gets lots of credit for remembering that and getting me white gold. =)

[geekchick]

If said boyfriend goes along with the "encouragement" from future in-laws to propose YET AGAIN to the pretty, pretty princess, I'd hope he starts to figure out exactly what he's getting in to. Yeesh.

Re: What the nickel-plated FUCK?

[geekchick]

Yup. I want to mail them all a copy of One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding.

Re: Never mind the zombies!

[geekchick]

Zombies you can reason with. Bridezillas, not so much.

[fluffthebunny.livejournal.com]

Jessica McClintock meets hotghettomess.com...

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

eh? You have a *ring* and I missed it?

[geekchick]

Um. Yes? I've had a ring for more than a year.

http://geekchick.livejournal.com/2006/04/24/

[geekchick]

Note fifth comment on that post. Pretty sure you didn't miss it. =)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(blush)

Ulp... well, I knew you were *engaged*, I'd just forgotten that you had jewelry. At least you didn't go $10k into debt for it. :)

[boadiccea.livejournal.com]

Oh do NOT get me started about these diva bitches.

That's what they are.

[patgreene.livejournal.com]

Yes, I think "Baby on Board" often translates to "Beware: Badly Sleep-Deprived Driver".

OT

[dionysia.livejournal.com]

My diamond came from a mine in Canada. Much better working conditions. :)

[dionysia.livejournal.com]

Sweet Jeebus.

[telnar.livejournal.com]

I wish these women would express these values to their fiancees.

I don't have any sympathy for their views, and maybe their fiancees won't either, but in the long run, one of three things will happen:

-- They will get rejected a lot and change their attitudes
-- They will find partners who are equally shallow
-- They will find partners willing to put up with their views for some other reason

Any of these three sounds better than having their partners gradually learn what they are in for after the wedding.

[hnybny.livejournal.com]

I'm gonna bet at least half of those comments came from girls under 25.

I've been engaged since 2001 and have been ruing the day I'm gonna have to put one of these shindigs together. My mom is begging to give me money and I keep putting it off. Too much drama!

[geekchick]

I'm gonna bet at least half of those comments came from girls under 25.

If Miss "I made my mom give me her ring because mine is ugly" is a day over 19, I'll eat my hat. I'll also weep for the future of humanity.

[kyra.livejournal.com]

Those sound pretty fantastic, actually. I'm not a rings girl, because they interfere with my hobbies (climbing, knitting, etc), but if I did get a ring, that sounds like a near-ideal metal especially if it can be worked small for my little fingers. I tend to be rough on my jewelry, so it needs to be able to stand up to hard use.

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Glad your diamonds are "conflict-free". My "ew" was more about the whole "your rock has to be big enough to make your man go into debt or he doesn't REALLY LOVE you" kind of crap. Blech.

And we just don't have any diamonds, AFAIK. Didn't do them for either engagement or wedding rings. Didn't really feel like spending the funds, and preferred to spend the money on travel, to be frank. :^)

[geekchick]

My "ew" was more about the whole "your rock has to be big enough to make your man go into debt or he doesn't REALLY LOVE you" kind of crap. Blech.

Ah, thanks for clarifying! That wasn't very clear to me when I read your comment.